Single Girl and the Church

As a single girl and a Christ follower there's an obvious, and yet very important piece missing from life - Who's my spiritual leader? Genesis 2 talks about how God provided a helpmate for Adam in Eve --

“This is now bone of my bones
and flesh of my flesh;
she shall be called ‘woman,’
for she was taken out of man.”

²⁴ That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.

And as Paul wrote in Ephesians
"For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior"

I haven't been united with a husband. I realize that before a woman is married, her father is in charge. Right? So the obvious answer would be my father or even my brother. My best friend Molly has both. Her dad and her brother are amazing Godly men and both of them are her spiritual leaders until she gets married. It's wonderful to watch... So what do I do? I mean let's be honest, my family, well, is broken. Thankfully, I have a relationship with my dad -however, his relationship with God is... questionable. So dad's not the answer. I can go to him about some things and I love my dad, but well, it just doesn't work. I, like my bestie, have and older brother and wouldn't he be a great leader. I love my brother very much - however, he needs Jesus. So what's a single girl to do? Who do I go to?
Well, God figured it out for me long before I realized I would need it. (of course he did) The last 10 or so years I have been blessed with multiple brothers in Christ who, during certain seasons of my life, stand in as my spiritual leaders. And it works. Amazingly. Not only do I have an awesome relationship with my pastor who I can go to with anything, I have multiple "big brothers" who (along with their wives) I can go to whenever I need advice or wisdom. I'm a big verbal processor and it is so great having these Godly men who I can go to. God is amazing, isn't He?